I love my readers. They always have such passion for working happier. One commenter wrote a response to - How You are Silently Signaling Your Co-Workers to Treat You. Check out what this reader is struggling with:
Ever since I was a kid, people have considered me to be “weird.” (Karl’s Note: We are all weird, some of us are just better at hiding it.) I have a very hard time connecting with people. The reality is that I love being alone. I love to write and read–watch birds…stare at the night sky. I have a rich imagination–and can entertain myself with my thoughts alone. I fantasize about moving to a little town where no one knows me, buying a little house, and not having to work…I’m not rich, I’m married, have children, and work with a group of people who ignore and avoid me. I’m pretty invisible. Then when I have to work with my team–it is a nightmare for me. No one listens to me, or they tell me my idea won’t work, then later someone else brings it up…and it is the greatest idea ever! I think I read somewhere that that means you’re the person with the lowest status in the group.
I’ll admit I feel impatient–I tend to see things quickly and clearly, and it is hard to wait while people hash things out…trying to understand. I’m sure with my poor social skills my impatience shows and that I’m not always pleasant to work with.
Anyway–I am in a lot of pain. My boss seems to be giving me fewer and fewer assignments, doesn’t work with me anymore–and I read that this could mean that she’s pushing me out.
Are there people who spend most of their time alone–and lead productive lives? Are there any jobs out there that I could do all by myself?
The pain of what is going on at work is tearing me apart.
Is there a place in this world for me?
I feel your pain. I'm a shy person at heart. I'm afraid of all kinds of people and situations, but I've learned that this is the stuff I need the most. I need to be pushed to be outgoing.
The first thing you need to do is try to make your present situation better. I always thought a change of jobs would help me. The thing is I kept falling back into the same problems.
It seems like you are a good problem solver. Try to find small ways to improve on what you are good at. That means volunteering for work that fits with your strengths. Hopefully your co-workers will respect the quality work that you are doing. If they don't then you at least know in your own heart that you are doing good work.
While trying to improve your present situation keep looking for a new job. There are a lot of jobs that allow you to work from home, i.e. - virtual assistant, call center, computer programming, etc. The reality is, you can't be an island. You will still have to interact with people, so building up your social skills will help you wherever you go.
Life is a myriad of puzzles. This puzzle is one that you are just going to have to dive into and find some solutions. I know you can make your working life better. It's why I started Work Happy Now. I wanted to make my working life more enjoyable.
Remember that it all starts with you. You have to take 100% responsibility for your happiness. No one can make you happy. They can only assist in helping you become happier.
Work relationships are never easy, but just keep trying new tactics and eventually you'll find solutions that work for you.
Please keep me updated. Everyone deserves to enjoy what they do to earn a living.
We all struggle with our jobs at some point, whether it is a difficult co-worker, a mean boss, or a project that grinds away on our last nerve. We can’t let these problems get to us. We need to find solutions within ourselves so we can still enjoy the process.
No job is perfect, but as long as we take responsibility for our own happiness, we will find ways to extract the joy out of a tough situation.
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