Cynthia Phelps shares her amazing story about dulling her pain with alcohol and how she dug deep to come out the other side even stronger. This interview is close to my heart because if you listen to previous interviews you know that I struggle with my inner bully. Her whole company is based around building your inner ally and understanding how you can create more empathy toward yourself.
You’ll also learn about how entrepreneurs can build their mindfulness practice to help them get unstuck. Here are the highlights from the interview:
0:41 - What is Cynthia grateful for.
1:35 - What was Cynthia like as a kid.
3:20 - How fear and self-doubt started creeping in.
4:29 - Why she dulled her feelings of discontent.
6:01 - How a particular piece of research changed her life.
6:59 - How awareness helps make improvements in your life.
7:36 - The difference between an acute and chronic problem.
8:24 - The practice of self-compassion.
9:02 - Sustaining emotional wellness over time.
10:25 - Creating internal dialog that builds kindness within you.
12:08 - How she struggled with self-worth.
13:29 - Building a mindfulness practice.
17:25 - Stopping and recognizing that you are suffering.
18:40 - Making strategic changes that improve your life.
20:11 - The importance of writing down what you did well at the end of the day.
21:45 - Why humans have a negativity bias.
25:02 - How we see ourselves is how we see the world.
28:15 - How our inner-patterns are holding us back.
30:20 - Fierce compassion.
30:48 - What do you really need?
32:57 - The stuff we ignore keeps coming back to haunt us.
33:33 - The book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg.
You can learn more about Cynthia Phelps at InnerAlly. She also has a Facebook group called Inner Allies.
We also talked about the book Nonviolent Communication. You can check it out on Amazon.
And as always if you have any questions or want to submit a guest for the podcast that you think would be amazing just reach out on Dig to Fly and I’ll do my best to get them on.